Make 2012 Your Sexiest Year Ever!

With 2011 just about in the bag, it’s time to roll out the red carpet and welcome in another brand new year.  If you are like the majority of people, you may be looking at the arrival of 2012 as a great opportunity to start fresh, to set some self-improvement goals and in general, to also try and make your life a bit better.  We applaud all these things and have a few ideas of our own.  Why not set a goal to make 2012 your sexiest year ever?  Here are a few of our best (and sexiest) ideas for a super hot and sexy 2012!

Resolve to Try Something New:  Decide now to get (once and for all!) out of your bedroom rut!  A super hot sex life really does make everything better.  It may take a bit of bravery and even more in the imagination department, but don’t be afraid to get creative with your love life and take it to a whole new level in 2012!  Sexy and seductive lingerie is a great place to start to get things sizzling–from there you can try role-playing with some creative ‘just for the bedroom’ costumes and accessories.  Sex is supposed to be fun, so it’s time to put away bedroom boredom for good!

Resolve to Get What You Really Want:  Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want or need.  Sometimes women have a tendency to get so wrapped up in the details of life that they tend to put their own needs on the back burner.  Make 2012 the year you take charge of your own needs and desires and make yourself more of a priority.  Feeling desired and sexy will make you feel confident and improve every facet of your life.

Resolve to Set Realistic Goals:  Some crazy person asked once, “How do you go about eating an elephant?  The answer (from a wise person):  “One bite at a time.”  Not that any of us really want to go around chowing down on jungle creatures, (we don’t) but the point is that small, more readily obtainable goals are easier to tackle (and achieve) than something overly ginormous or overwhelming.  Go ahead and set some resolutions for the New Year –but do yourself a favor and make them reasonably obtainable.  Your reward will be that you don’t the abandon ship after just a few days. 

Resolve to Splurge a Little:  You are worth it!  Don’t feel guilty about splurging on yourself in small ways now and then.  Fill your drawers with pretty and sexy lingerie to wear underneath your clothes even on the most routine day. It’s an inexpensive way to feel sexy and beautiful all the time.  Even under the most ‘serious’ clothes, it’s fun to have a sexy secret on underneath that only you know about it…and when at the end of the day it’s time to kick those heels off and get undressed–well, things can get even more interesting.

Resolutions are a good thing and even better when they are fun to do and are easily achieved.  Commit now to make 2012 your sexiest year ever!

Random Acts of Kindness:  In today’s world it seems so many are focused on “me, me, me!”  Is a self-absorbed world a happy world?  Research shows that the opposite is really true.  Changing your focus and looking out for the other guy can actually boost your spirits more than you might realize.  You don’t have to try to change the world overnight, but sometimes a simple random act of kindness can make a huge difference.  Pay for the guy’s coffee that’s in line behind you.  Hold a door open for someone and say something cheerful.  Set a goal to make a few people smile every single day.  These simple acts are going to make you feel great and are very contagious to those around you. 

Surround yourself with happy people:  You remember the kid’s story of Winnie the Pooh? Even in the 100-Acre Woods, Pooh Bear sometimes had to deal with the negative attitude of Eeyore.  “Good morning, Pooh Bear, “ said Eeyore gloomily.  “If it is a good morning that is,” he said.  “Which I doubt,” said he. How long would it take for this negative mood to become yours?  If you purposely surround yourself with positive, happy people, their energy is going to rub off on you.  As for the “Eeyore’s” in your own life, take care of them in small doses.  Your good vibe is likely to rub off on them, but don’t give them a chance to bring you down.

Be solution oriented:  When things are going truly badly, accept it as part of life.  Everyone has down cycles and realizing that everything eventually changes will help you to stay positive.  Make a list of simple steps you can take to move in a better direction.  Sometimes even just the thought process involved in taking action can be a positive step.  Weigh your options and think positively.

Do things that make you happy:  Sometimes when you are feeling a little bit off kilter you have to kind of force the issue a bit.  “Fake it until you make it” are words to live by in these instances.  Doing things that you truly enjoy is a great place to start.  Even if you are tempted to just bury yourself in the house and not do anything—getting out and doing something you enjoy is going to make you feel a lot better.

Increase Intimacy:  Yes, this means having more sex!  Connecting with your partner and increasing the level of intimacy between the two of you is going to do a lot of good things.  Sex relieves stress, boosts your immunity and makes you feel better about yourself.  Sex also increases the Oxytocin levels in your body which makes you feel better in general and will make you easier to live with—which in turn may lead to more sex.  This is a not-so-vicious cycle that you might actually enjoy being stuck in.  If your sex life has gone a bit stale, don’t be afraid to try some very sexy lingerie to entice your partner back into the bedroom.  Wearing something beautiful and sexy is going to make you feel fabulous and the message it sends isn’t likely to be misunderstood. 

See the humor in things:  Even the most difficult of circumstances often have a humorous or bright side to them.  Sometimes just consciously thinking, “this situation will make a really great story one day” will help you to see your way out of the problem and realize that things will get better.  Learning to cope in the moment through humor and a positive outlook can only help things seem better.

Take some time off:  All work and no play makes for a dull boy (or girl), or so they say.  Work is important, but a break from it is necessary to keep yourself from getting burned out.  A day off now and then (or even longer if that’s feasible) is an important as well as mind-clearing break.  The work will always be there when you get back, it’s not likely to go anywhere but taking a breather sometimes will help you tackle your job anew, along with a fresh attitude and happier spirit.

Attitude of gratitude:  The old adage “count your blessings” applies every single day.  Be grateful for all that you have that is right and wonderful and acknowledge those things.  Yes, things could always be better, but they could also always be worse.  Being grateful for what you have is a big step toward a happier existence.

Accept what you can’t control:  Some things are just out of your hands.  Learn to let those things go and invest your time and energy wisely into those things you actually have something to say about.  Live positively in the moment.

Live Healthfully:  Move your body and get some exercise whenever possible.  (Yes, sex does burn some calories, too.)  Make sure your diet has lots of fruits, veggies and whole grains.  Drink lots of water, and by all means get plenty of sleep.  You will be amazed at how simple changes in your diet and exercise plan can make a huge difference in how you feel and in your outlook as well.

Dare to dream:  Dream big—the kind of dreams you dream while awake, of course.  Set goals for yourself and make plans for the future.  Envision yourself doing the things you dream about and take a step, even a small one, in that direction.  Even the smallest progress is uplifting.

No one else can make you happy—you have to do that for yourself.  Being accountable and accepting that you are in charge of your own happiness is a huge step toward finding your happiest life.  Make the changes you need to and remember that happiness is always a choice—make it yours. 

Boys will be boys.  And that goes for big boys and apparently Congressmen, too.  The ink hasn’t even dried on the latest dish on Arnie and his lovechild and already, another political person has gone “bad boy” on us.  It seems that a new limelighter has bent the rules (again) and decided that the world needed to see much, much more of him than they were formerly getting.   Anthony Weiner is certainly the most infamous celebrity sexter in recent days (move over Brett Favre) and the whole situation does leave us a bit baffled.  The truth is always so much stranger than fiction and honestly you just couldn’t make some of this stuff up!

It seems that no matter how many of these situations go bad there are still guys out there who are going to send their own Mr. Johnson out cyber-calling.  For these guys (and you girls, too who might be tempted to get naked in a sext message of your own) we’ve compiled a few guidelines that are going to hopefully keep your sexting where it belongs—as a sexy, (and hopefully very private) consensual conversation between two interested, adult people. 

TIPS FOR MEN

Who’s this for?  Guys– as much as you love your package (we know you do) and are so proud of all it can do—please consider how a woman feels about seeing the same thing appear on her small screen.   A woman may not be as turned on by receiving this type of a pictorial message as you are by sending it to her.

Never send an out of nowhere sext:  This scenario has “disaster” written all over it.  Trust me, no woman wants your initial contact with her to be something that could be construed as creepy.  You should always have an established intimate relationship with any woman you’d ever consider sexting and it’s probably a good idea to ask her how she feels about receiving a sexy picture before you hit the send button.

It’s all about trust.  Who can you really trust?  You have to ask yourself…”how well do I really know this woman?”  If you sent her a sexy picture, would she keep your privates-private?  Or would she quickly (while giggling) show your pic to all her friends?  Once the photo is forwarded to one of her friends it can disseminate rapidly.

Consider a new definition of sexy:  Sometimes complete nudity isn’t as sexy as leaving something to the imagination.  Consider leaving your jeans on with perhaps just the top button open.  Leave your big head out of the shot—with no face there is no positive identity and trust me that might just be your ace in the hole.  No matter how much proof or evidence someone has that you are the owner of the sexy package in the pic— in a desperate situation you can always deny, deny, deny.

Consider the pros and cons:  First and foremost ask yourself if the picture were to leak out how damaging would it be to you, your family and your career.  If the answer strikes anywhere on the painOmeter, just don’t go there. It’s not worth it. 

Realize that women are wired differently:  If your agenda is to arouse and tease your girlfriend or spouse then the text part of the message is as important as the picture.  Women respond to feelings and emotions stronger than visual images so in order for your sext to have the desired effect be sure to attach a meaningful as well as sexy message to it, not just a picture.  Try something like “I can’t get my mind off of you—here’s the proof” or something like that.  The sentiment is actually just as (or more) important as the photograph.

TIPS FOR WOMEN

If your guy has sent you a sexy text message and you want to return the favor, here are a few tips for women that will help you retain your privacy and yet let you have a little fun with your favorite guy as well.

Guys like to brag:  The trust issue is critical if you are considering sending a sexy photo to your man, Keep in mind that guys like to show off and there is a very high likelihood that he will be tempted to show the pic to his buddies for bragging rights—even if you’ve ask him not to.  If you can’t trust your man not to display your picture then you really should avoid sending him one altogether.  When in doubt, just don’t.

Stay incognito:  Don’t ever sext a completely nude photo with your face in it.   If you want your face in the photo, wearing some sexy lingerie will keep yourself partially covered while still being incredibly sexy.  Leaving something to the imagination is tantalizing and will send a message to your guy without the same risk involved as a more risqué shot.  A leg in a thigh high stocking and a high heel can make a very alluring photo.  If you use your imagination you will come up with ideas that are both sexy and will still retain most of your privacy.  Put your hair up, face away from the camera and look over your shoulder so your face is in shadow and can’t be seen.  You don’t have to show a ton of skin to get a hot and sexy message through to your guy.  Save the really good stuff for private quarters.

If you ask the professionals (whoever they are) they are going to tell you that sending sext messages is generally a very bad idea.  Just look at today’s headlines-there is no such thing as being 100% safe once something hits cyberspace.  Being as that we are living in a world of human beings, however, it seems unlikely that everyone is going to listen to that advice—besides, where’s the real fun in that?  Since sexting is obviously here to stay, hopefully these tips will help to keep you out of any major trouble and keep your privacy intact as well.

"Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better."
– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Convertible Bra.  Sexy tops make the challenge of bra straps much easier to deal with if you have a convertible bra that works with all your sexy summer outfits.  Halters, racer backs and even strapless can be created with one bra and versatile strap configurations.

Seamless Control Camisole.  Tight tees or sheer blouses are no longer a problem with this essential lingerie piece underneath.  This piece offers you the control you need and under sheer blouses provides a sexy nude illusion. 

Simple and seductive nudes.  With summertime we bring out all our favorite white pieces that have been packed away all winter.  White linens, sheer gauzy blouses and white jeans are summer staples but make sure and have your undie drawer stocked with appropriate nude bras and panties to melt away into your skin underneath your summer favorites.  Go seamless whenever possible and if you are buying a bra for wearing under t-shirts, one with molded cups or light padding is best. 

Cotton Panties.  It’s going to get hot out there.  Maximize your summertime comfort and wear cotton panties.  Cotton underwear breathes beautifully and will keep you feeling cool and fresher all summer long.  You can find very sexy styles in cotton now and they are definitely a far cry from the granny panties of yesteryear. 
 
Shaper Slip dress.  A night out in the summer is going to require a sexy, skin-revealing summer dress.  Be ready to look lovely in yours with a slip dress that has enough gentle shaping in it to hold you in  yet  will do the job without overheating you.

Racer Back Padded bra.  If you live in tank tops all summer long, this bra is a must have.  The racer back style automatically slims your body and the padded bra lifts your bust creating a very flattering and sexy look.  Your summer tank tops will thank you!

Show some skin in bed.  Ditch the flannels ladies—when the temperature is rising outside you are going to be a lot more comfortable in a very sexy shortie nightie or a baby doll pajama come bedtime.  Of course, it won’t do much to quell his temperature– but then again, that is the point isn’t it?

When temperatures soar outdoors it’s time to heat up your lingerie wardrobe as well.  There are practical purposes to update your lingerie as cooler and more comfortable lingerie is a must have for summer.   

1. Eat breakfast for dinner and eat it in bed, of course.  Breakfast in bed is always a luxurious and fun way to start your day.  Why not end the day the same way?  Breakfast foods are inexpensive and being snuggled in with your sweetie is bound to inspire a night of sexy romance to boot.  
2. Have an at home Spa date.  Run a hot bath for two and then give each other full body massages using relaxing and fragrant body oil.  Turn off your alarm clock and sleep in the next day.
3. Try fine wines.  An easy way to try nice wines that you might not be able to afford at the moment is to take a tour of a local winery.  Check your area to see if there is one nearby and head to one of the wine-tastings. 
4. Find a local band that needs an audience.  There are always local bands in your area that play for free at bars, coffee houses or other public venues.  Find a band you might like and plan an evening of live music that will cost you next to nothing.
5. Hit your local bowling alley.  It’s not free, but for very little cash you can have a full evening of the kind of silly fun that only bowling will bring out.  Give you and your sweetie cutesy names on the computerized scorekeeper like “Super Hottie” and “Loverboy.” Don’t forget to wager something sexy on the game—like a massage to be given at home later.
6. Browse through a bookstore.  It’s fun to wade through the aisles and look at all sorts of different books—ones you’d like to read, ones you have read and ones you think just look ridiculous.  Have fun and explore.  Don’t forget to take a peek at the Kama Sutra books for some good ideas you may want to try later on.
7. Invite another couple over for a potluck dinner.   Having a potluck eases the financial burden on both couples and you can try some new recipes and food ideas.  Play some silly board games afterward.
8. Go to a local petting zoo.  It’s fun to go play with the animals and by all means feel free to imitate their sounds or behavior.  Have some fun with it and be sure to invest a few sheckles into some zoo-sanctioned food to feed the little beasts.  Going to a petting zoo gives you both a great reason for a post adventure shower for two.
9. Play a personal version of 20 questions.  No matter how long you’ve been with your partner there is always something you don’t know yet about him/her.  Each of you should make a list of 20 things you want to know about the other person and make sure you ask them in a way that requires more than a yes or no answer.  You might be surprised about what you discover.
10. Take a hike.  Make a plan for a late afternoon, early evening hike and pack a light picnic dinner to eat while you are out.   After hiking back listen to some music on the car radio while lying on the hood of your car watching the stars.
11. Go to a local inexpensive sporting event.  Maybe your nephew has a little league game or maybe it’s 2 for 1 day at your local stadium.  Going to a game is going to score you some points with your man and maybe he will feel like returning the favor next time you want to hit the ballet.
12. Check out the theatre schedule for your local community theatre or college drama department.  For very little outlay you can see some very fun productions that are definitely going to be worthwhile.
13. Ride bikes.  If you and your sweetie have bikes, plan a route and go out for a ride.  If you don’t have them they can be rented cheaply—a tandem bike can be especially fun on a date.  Have some fun with him and stop peddling while he does all the work—see how long it takes for him to notice.
14. Check out old movies.  Many movies (especially old ones) can be checked out at your local library for free.  Each of you can pick one of your favorites that the other one hasn’t seen yet.  Pop some popcorn and make it a romantic and fun movie night at home. 
15.  Go on a tour of your own city.  If you can’t afford a vacation, see what there is to sight see in your very own neighborhood.  You might be surprised what’s there as a tourist attraction that you have been completely unaware of.
16. Check out local open mike nights.  Nightclubs or coffee houses in your neighborhood might sponsor these and you never know when you are going to see some genuinely good (or very bad) talent.  Be prepared for anything and if it turns out badly you will have more to laugh about on the drive home.
17. Hit your local comedy club amateur night.  For the cost of a drink or 2 you can have a full night of what will hopefully turn out to be some good laughs.
18. Play pool in a dive bar.  Grab a couple of beers in your local Joe’s and challenge your sweetie to a game of pool or darts.  Don’t forget to make a sexy wager on your game—the loser can buy the winner’s songs on the jukebox. 

Being temporarily tax poor needn’t mean your relationship has to suffer.  Who knows–it might even flourish as your creativity forces you and your partner to try some new adventures as a couple.  April 15th and paying your taxes isn’t fun, but that doesn’t mean your dating life can’t be.

April Fools Day has become the socially acceptable day to play mean tricks on your friends and co-workers.   At some point most men have turned to their spouses or girlfriends and thought they, too might make easy prey for a well-chosen April Fools Day prank. I recently watched with interest a video on the Internet about a guy who played a prank on his girl by literally awakening her after a night of heavy drinking with a blowhorn.  As if this wasn’t bad enough he set HUNDREDS of mousetraps and put them next to her in bed as well as on the floor next to her bed.  When the blowhorn woke her with a pretty serious jolt (as if THAT wasn’t enough) then she hit the ground in horror where dozens of mousetraps snapped at her toes. Did he get her attention?  You bet he did, but I hope she kicked him to the curb after that fiasco. 

Before you go over the top with your April Fools Day shenanigans here are a few ideas to get you into the spirit of the holiday without getting you kicked out of the house.  Save the meaner pranks for the guys—here are a few fun ideas.  It’s up to you whether you decide to be an April Fools Day Zero…or Hero.

Food Pranks:  These are not the best idea to pull on your girlfriend once you’ve passed the second grade but if you insist on trying one, keep it on the tamer side. These include such tricks as switching out the creamy filling in the middle of Oreo cookies for toothpaste or putting salt in the sugar bowl.   If you don’t go too far with food these tricks (although juvenile) are likely to get your April Fools Day point across.

Gross Pranks:  The old stand by April Fools day prank is to put Saran wrap over the toilet bowl so tightly that your sleepy-eyed significant other won’t notice until it’s too late—it’s a shocking and gross prank but it won’t take long for your spouse to figure out that they’ve become another April Fools day victim.   Another really disgusting prank is to buy a very large and realistic rubber “dog poop” at a novelty store, and leave it right in the middle of your front porch mat.  It’s so yucky but it’s a great prank with very little after burn.  It’s funny once you realize that the “gift” is phony.

Office Pranks:  Office life must be incredibly boring because there always seems to be a plethora of great office pranks going around.  Filling your office-mates cubicle with hundreds of post-its all over his workspace will definitely get your office snickering.  Another office favorite it carefully rigging desk drawers with the contents upside down (use Saran Wrap to temporarily hold it all in) and then placing it back in the cabinet, primed and ready to go.  You won’t have to travel far to hear the giant crash of desk contents when the drawer is opened—it’s bound to be followed by some good use of the English language as well.

Gentler, almost loving pranks:  Make a mini-date with your girl, which later you will pretend to break.  Tell her that you want to go to dinner and a movie with her or something else that’s easy and simple.  At the last minute you can play the prank part on her by coming up with a really lame guy excuse to break the date.  Say something like “my best buddy’s car broke down and I need you to come and pick us up—“ or anything that leads her to believe that her night is in an utter state of ruin.  The prank makes a sudden turn for the better when you have a romantic dinner cooked for her (or any other special evening) all ready to go.  She’ll be waiting for the punch line but won’t mind a bit when it doesn’t come.  She’s not going to be expecting this sort of an April Fools day prank believe me.

Make a Fool of Yourself for Love:  Greet your sweetie on April Fools day to a series of clues and take her on a very silly and a little bit crazy treasure hunt.    The clues can be a sort of wild goose chase (it’s April Fools Day after all) but keep it fun and uncomplicated. At the end of all this treasure hunting and clue searching have a gift wrapped up beautifully that she can open up with great excitement.  (She won’t be expecting an April Fools Day present!)  Inside have a framed photograph of you, Mr. Wonderful in the buff or in silky boxers with a rose clenched between your teeth.  The caption on the photograph could read, ”I am still just a Silly Fool For You…Happy April Fools Day!”   Yes, it’s a bit corny but it’s also completely unexpected.  You will woo your lady with your boyish charm and she’s going to melt.

April Fools Day doesn’t have to be cruel in order to be fun.  My suggestion to you is to perhaps to go against the grain a bit and make your Aprils Fools Day a bit of a kinder, gentler one.  Your sweetheart is going to thank you for this and trust me that part you will like.   All that really is going to be missing from your day of tomfoolery is the raucous laughter and a bit of back slapping from the boys club.  Trust me, those guys might think you are funny–but they aren’t really that fun to sleep with at the end of the day.  Save the mean tricks for your buddies.  When it comes to your lady-just be the Fool she loves and believe me– that is quite enough.

Every woman knows that the right lingerie makes you feel sexy, confident and self assured.  Why not take that feeling and carry it with you during the day.  Whether it’s a board meeting or a pta meeting, a cute bustier or camisole worn under a jacket or over a fitted tee is a great look. 

Next time you’re getting dressed in the morning, think “innerwear for outerwear!”   Reach for your lingerie for a great in-style chic look!

We’ve seen a lot of changes from some new and exciting sexy lingerie to a new, easier to use website that is nothing short of fantastic!

Here’s hoping your New Year is filled with beautiful, sexy, flirtatious, seductive, exotic and drop dead gorgeous lingerie (oh yea – peace, love and happiness and all that too)!

]]> It’s New Year’s Eve and time to throw out those old granny panties and ring in the New Year with some intimate apparel that will light up your world…and his! Wow can you believe it’s almost 2010?!

We’ve seen a lot of changes from some new and exciting sexy lingerie to a new, easier to use website that is nothing short of fantastic!

Here’s hoping your New Year is filled with beautiful, sexy, flirtatious, seductive, exotic and drop dead gorgeous lingerie (oh yea – peace, love and happiness and all that too)!

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