This week, Victoria’s Secret came out with their annual list of “What is Sexy”. For those of you that haven’t seen it, here’s the video:
After watching this, I thought to myself, “How nice. A big list of fabulous qualities, all owned by a bunch of celebrities with perfect “everything’s”. Now they are the ones telling the rest of us what is really “sexy”? I got to thinking and decided “who cares” what the good folks over at Vicki’s think anyway, and wondered what real men, in the real world think is sexy. Here’s my top 10 list of those qualities that made the sexy list.
Laughs At His Humor: Yes, it may be fun for many of you gals to make wise cracks and be the life of the party. The truth? Being funny is all well and good, but your guy wants to hear you laugh at his humor. It’s sexy to your man to know that you think he’s funny. Don’t be afraid to laugh out loud at your man’s jokes; he will love you for it.
She’s A Great Kisser: There is something that men love about a really hot kiss that simply melts him and then starts to really get him going. If your kissing skills turn him on, you can bet that your sex appeal quotient just went into the stratosphere.
Can Set Aside Her Fears: This is not the same thing as being “fearless”. Men have their vulnerabilities, too and your feeling afraid sometimes is just fine. What is sexy to most men is having the ability to set aside your fears and forge ahead in spite of feeling them.
Bending The Rules Now and Then: Our world is full of rules and obviously most men want a woman around who acknowledges and respects them. Every now and then, however, a man will find it sexy to know that a woman can be a bit flexible and “bend the rules” a little if a situation dictates it.
Show Sincere Gratitude: When your guy goes out of his way to do something nice for you, he wants to feel appreciated. Showing sincere gratitude is very sexy to him and will also score you big points in his book. When he does something for you, be sure and thank him sincerely, letting him know how much whatever he did actually did mean to you. It can’t hurt to give him one of those sexy kisses you’ve been practicing, too–just saying.
Showing Affection: A man loves and needs affection. This physical connection he feels toward you is part of the glue that binds you together. Little touches, caresses, hugs, kisses–let this all be part of your non-verbal way of communicating!
Feels You Understand Him: Ever been around one of those women who seems like she is kind of a man-hater? You know, the ones that are always making commentary on “how men are”, but always in a negative way? This is a total turn off to most guys, for obvious reasons. Your man will find it extremely sexy if you understand the way he thinks and love him for it. Men find it very reassuring and sexy if you can give him the space that he needs, to just be his self.
Sexual Maturity: Whatever is happening sexually in your relationship, your man will find it sexy if you can discuss it at appropriate times in a mature and grown up way.
Beauty: Hey, men are still men right? Don’t be surprised if your guy wants a girl he considers to be beautiful. What may surprise you is his definition of it and it likely has little to do with anything you see on the Victoria’s Secret sexy list. Every man is different, thus every man’s definition of what is beautiful is also different. We do notice that almost all men appreciate it when a woman dresses in a way that flatters her body and when her grooming is top notch. When a woman clearly cares about herself and takes care of what she has, this is sexy.
Playful Nature: Life is hard enough without having to take it so seriously all the time. An ability to be playful is very attractive to men. Playful flirting and not being so worried about every little thing is sexy. Appropriate silliness is tantalizing to men and puts them at ease. Ironically, many men say that it takes a more mature woman to be able to really relax sometimes as well as to have the ability to show how much she loves her life.
Personally, I don’t care one little iota about what those VS models think is hot (or not.) Find what’s sexy within yourself and use those qualities to your best advantage. Yes, there will always be sexy things you can put on–but true sex appeal will always come from somewhere inside yourself.
