You can ditch this myth. Men are always horny, ready and sexually raring to go 24/7 and when it comes to sex, they are always in the mood. The truth is, when it comes to sexual incompatibility–meaning one partner wants more sex than the other one does–30-40% of the time it’s the man with lagging desire. This statistic is somewhat surprising, particularly since we come from a society that perpetuates the notion that men are basically all horn dogs and when it comes to sex, their appetite for it is supposed to be nearly insatiable. When faced with the reality of a man having a lagging libido, a woman might (and probably will) blame herself for his change in attitude. She may assume that the problem is her fault or even wonder if he is cheating. The truth is, more likely than not, what is going on actually has little to do with her at all.
Physical Health: If your man has a marked plummet in his libido, it may be time for a visit to the doctor to get a proper check up. There are many health reasons that can affect sexual desire and a physician is the best one to make a proper diagnosis and can make suggestions that will get your man back on track. Some medications can also impact libido, so be sure his physician knows of any side effects he may be experiencing from his meds. Sometimes even with a clear bill of health a man may experience a drop in his sexual desire. At that point, even simple lifestyle changes like getting regular exercise and improving his diet can make a big difference. Alcohol abuse is also known to kill libido.
Emotional Health: Sometimes when a man is going through a serious love life lull the answer simply lies in his daily life and what may be going on within it. Men are not always the best at expressing what is bothering them, so if something is on his mind it may be consuming him to the point that sex is not even on his radar. Work pressures, family issues or other matters can all affect your man’s level of sexual desire.
Personal Wiring: It’s perfectly normal for men to have varying levels of desire for sex. The trick is to have a partner whose libido is in sync with your own, which makes for perfect sexual simpatico. When one partner is lagging, the other may feel rejected, inadequate and most certainly their sexual needs are not being met. Sometimes a man just needs a little nudge in the right direction, and there definitely are ways you can boost your man’s desire.
- Don’t be accusatory or confrontational. Do let him know that you miss being close to him and miss your sexual connection.
- Don’t be afraid to try and seduce him. Send him a racy text message when he is at work and see how he responds. Put a sexy note in his briefcase. Buy some sexy lingerie and tell him you are wearing it just for him.
- Whisper something rated x in his ear when you are alone together.
- Be aware of his body rhythms. Some men are more likely to be in the mood in the morning as opposed to the evening when they are tired. Be flexible.
The truth is that many men have periods in their life when they aren’t thinking about sex as much as their partners might like. Getting into sync as a couple is worth the effort, as you will both reap the benefits of this increased connection in body and soul.